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Jhames was getting grilled...

How did you learn to spot other gay guys? How did your guy friends react when you told them you were gay? How old were you and how long did it take for you to be, if you are, completely open and comfortable about being gay? Were you not comfortable, in the beginning, when it came to talking about the guys you liked, etc. with your straight friends? Did you ever actually approach a guy at school that you though might be gay?

And it made me think about all the crap I've been asked... and all the crap I've asked, or learned from my surroundings.

First... How did I learn to "spot" other gay guys? Dude, they're easy to spot... well, usually the ones you don't want to know are. But, I thought all gays were like that, and were supposed to be like that... all flamboyant and lispy and gross. Thankfully, I grew out of that. Otherwise, you just have to get introduced, if you're like me, and shy.

How did your guy friends react when you told them? Well, I never had many friends, and the ones who I told had no problem. I was lucky. It was the aquaintances who found out later who had a problem.

How old were you and how long did it take for you to be, if you are, completely open and comfortable about being gay? I was in college when I realized I had feelings for the same sex. I'm not open about it. It's not something I feel is anybody's business. And you can be fired in Ohio for being gay.

Were you not comfortable, in the beginning, when it came to talking about the guys you liked, etc. with your straight friends? This question should really be "were your friends comfortable with you talking about people you liked", and that depends on the friend. Guys dont like it, but obviously (straight) girls can deal with it better.

Did you ever actually approach a guy at school that you though might be gay? Not really. I asked a roommate once if he was gay, but I was wrong. Mostly, I don't ask. I'm shy to begin with, and it's really none of my business.