things.
no, she's not dead yet. but, with all of us so widely distributed, it is good to get the planning done ahead of time. to that end, the grandchildren are being contacted regarding the memorial service.
i responded to my mom today. everything i said was said with respect to my cousins. something should be done so that those who need closure get it. whenever it is done, whether right after her death, or at a planned family gathering. consensus was that travel will be a hardship for some. also, it seems, one cousin and i are the two grandchildren who our parents are worried about. i think my cousin will need it more than i will.
my mom made a good point about the memorial service... she thinks it should be for more than just family. gram had made many, many friends over the years, and perhaps the grandchildren should hear more about their grandmother from people other than her family. my aunt feels otherwise. i see the benefit of both scenarios and think it might be wise to do both. one, for everyone, and one for just family. that gives us the insight of others and then also the time to share and process as a family.
i realize every family has its quirks, but mine, i feel, is sometimes beyond quirky. i do not understand the fighting amongst siblings about things that really shouldnt matter. i also do not understand how they cannot do what i see as being their familial duties when it comes to siblings.
it's just messed up, and if you see me in person, i might go into detail.